Anger management in Leeds, Manchester & Skype
Anger management issues are very commonplace, and I see clients with anger management problems every week in my Leeds and Manchester clinics. My approach to working with this anger management is to explore how the client is able to change their way of thinking and feeling, so that the old behaviours don’t occur in the historical knee jerk manner any more. Of course the term “anger” can mean many different things to different people, and when clients first make contact it’s usually when they are at boiling point in terms of really needing help for this problem. The secret to helping with anger related problems is not to focus on the “why” a person feels this way, but rather the process of how they are creating this unhelpful angry feeling.
Often with anger management a person feels a sense of injustice, and, despite lots of analytical thinking, they increasingly find that they can’t control their angry feelings and subsequent responses. Usually these anger responses occur in specific situations. Most clients can tell me exactly when these behaviours occur, and, of course after a period of time they also expect to respond in this unhelpful manner. Sometimes companies will send employees to me who have anger management issues at work, and in other instances the anger will take place in the home environment. It’s not uncommon for me to get a phone call when a wife will start a conversation with the comment “You need to see my husband!” This can obviously also occur when the husband makes the call ,and usually the common factor in these requests for help is that either the client with the problem, or those around them ,has become exasperated with having these feelings of anger, and realise that something now has to change.
My approach to working with this issue is to work on changing the way of thinking that creates the feeling of anger. It’s also important to check that it’s “appropriate” to change this particular feeling, and this means prior to seeing any client I always gather proper information about what they want and a history of the problem. This gathering of information ensures that the session time is used to the best possible effect. All client sessions are recorded on audio and many clients find it greatly beneficial to listen back to the sessions and to practice the specific exercises that help change the old behavioural pattern. Part of the information I look for is when the behaviour occurs the most, and when it occurs the least. I’m very practical when working with anger management issues and the focus of the sessions is to enable the client to experience a new freedom from the previously destructive anger pattern.
There can be a wealth of different triggers that can create anger management issues. In these tougher economic times it’s understandable that many people are more stressed than previously, and often this can trigger this feeling. When I see clients we explore how to create a more appropriately relaxed feeling in those situations where there was previously this feeling of anger. During each session we will explore how to think and respond differently, to produce a whole different way of thinking and feeling. Sometimes this can occur very quickly and clients are often surprised at how easy it is to make these changes. Here is a typical testimonial from a client who has seen me for anger management issues
“I feel so much calmer and can now take an alternative route to feeling well”
“Dear Nick, You may recall that you gave me anger management counselling in early February, for which I have been very grateful.So far as I can tell, it has been entirely succesful, and has helped me to come to terms with my life. So many thanks, I do not expect to have to call on you again, but would not hesitate to recommend you in the future.”
Kind Regards, GM
I see clients in my Leeds and Manchester hypnotherapy clinics as well as on Skype – check HERE
I also teach workshops for other therapists on this specific issue and have written a number of articles on anger management which have either been published or which appear on my site.